Clearing up the biggest misconceptions with honesty and clarity!

Becoming a surrogate is one of the most generous, life-affirming decisions a person can make. Yet there are still so many myths, half-truths, and misunderstandings floating around about what surrogacy truly involves. Whether you’re considering becoming a gestational carrier or simply curious about the process, let’s set the record straight!

Here are the top myths about being a surrogate—busted!

Myth #1: Surrogates get attached to the baby and won’t want to give it up.

The truth: This is probably the most common myth! Here’s the reality: surrogates enter into this journey fully understanding that the baby is not theirs. Gestational carriers don’t share DNA with the child and go through a thorough screening process to ensure they’re emotionally prepared! Most surrogates describe the experience as giving the baby back … to the parents who’ve been waiting so long to meet them!

Myth #2: Surrogates are only in it for the money.

The truth: Compensation is certainly part of the equation as surrogates commit a huge amount of time, energy, and physical and emotional labor to these journeys! But nearly every surrogate we’ve worked with is motivated by something much deeper: the desire to help others build a family. Many say they loved being pregnant, had uncomplicated births, and felt called to give that gift to someone else. It’s about heart, not just dollars!

Myth #3: Surrogates use their own eggs.

The truth: In gestational surrogacy, which is the types of journeys An Eggceptional Match facilitates, the surrogate is not genetically related to the baby. The embryo is created using the intended parents’ or donor’s egg and sperm and then transferred to the surrogate’s uterus.

Myth #4: Surrogates have legal rights to keep the baby.

The truth: Surrogacy is backed by strong legal agreements that are reviewed and signed before a transfer occurs. These contracts clearly state that the intended parents are the legal parents. Surrogates have no desire—or legal grounds—to claim custody. Everyone involved is on the same page from the start and the legal system supports that clarity!

Final Thoughts

Being a surrogate is a brave, beautiful act of service—and it’s time we talked about it with more respect and honesty. If you or someone you love is thinking about becoming a surrogate, we hope this helps dispel some common fears and shine a light on the truth behind the myths!